This post is more on a serious note. And it's something that lies close to my heart.
The reason for this post mainly comes from that at the moment I study psychology and communication. And we saw a small video about bullying this week. And it hit close to home for me. So I have decided to write about how bullying has affected me. I do want to point out that I don't blame the ones who bullied me. It happened a lot of years ago and I have forgiven the ones who bullied me. And if some of them should read this. I'm not angry and I'm not writing this to make you feel bad. Done is done. And it has to a certain point helped me to be the person I am today. :-)
If I just can help one person with this post I'm happy. :-)
Bullying is one of the worst things that can happen to a person. It doesn't matter if it's children or grown ups. If the person gets bullied because of sexuality, religion, because the person doesn't fit in, or another reason to bully someone is just wrong.
Grown ups bully just as much as children (young people) do. In some work places bullying does take place.
And especially today with internet it's so easy to bully someone. The so-called "trolls" keep writing bad things to someone on social media. And it can hurt them deeply and sometimes to the point where the person commit suicide.
I believe that whatever sexuality or religion we might have it doesn't give some the right to bully someone. It neither give someone right to bully someone who is fat or skinny. Or if that person doesn't fit in. WE ARE WHO WE ARE.
I was bullied myself when I went to school. I didn't wear the same clothes as the rest of my class mates and I was the first one to get glasses in my class. And for some years I got bullied because of it. To a certain point I became a fragile person. I was lucky because I had a teacher I could talk to. And I talked to this teacher a lot. For me that was a big help. This particular teacher heard me out. And could see it from my point of view. It never came to the point where I thought it was best if I wasn't here anymore and in someway I think I can thank my teacher for that. The teacher is not the only reason. I'm also a big reason for it. Because I asked for help. For some years after I was finished school I found it diffult to fit in in both in a group and in life itself. And the more I tried to fit in the more I felt that I didn't fit in.
Slowly I got my confidence back and when I went to college I could feel that I was started to fit in.
Today for the most part I don't care what people think of me. If they think I'm ugly or someone think I don't look the way they think I should. I don't really care. I am who I am. Sometimes we get asked if we could travel back in time would we change something about our past. My answer is actually no. For me the bullying is part of the person I am today. If I changed that I don't if I would be the person I am today. I can go both ways and I will never know. I know I can't make everyone happy and I'm fine with that. I do sometimes do think I don't fit in. Then I just think happy thoughts and it's away as quickly as it came. :-)
Life isn't easy and growing up isn't easy. Today I try not to bully someone. I can never be sure since we don't say or react the same. My meaning of a word can have another meaning to the one I'm saying something to. As an celebrity I follow on twitter says: "Spread love and love will spread". That's the words I live by now.
If you're getting bullied my best advice is get help. May it be a teacher, co-worker, parent, spouse, friend or whoever you think will be able to help you. Or if there's a crisis linie you can call, then call it. The first step is always the hardest. When you've taken that first step it will get better. And take your time getting through this. You can't rush it.
The reason for this post mainly comes from that at the moment I study psychology and communication. And we saw a small video about bullying this week. And it hit close to home for me. So I have decided to write about how bullying has affected me. I do want to point out that I don't blame the ones who bullied me. It happened a lot of years ago and I have forgiven the ones who bullied me. And if some of them should read this. I'm not angry and I'm not writing this to make you feel bad. Done is done. And it has to a certain point helped me to be the person I am today. :-)
If I just can help one person with this post I'm happy. :-)
Bullying is one of the worst things that can happen to a person. It doesn't matter if it's children or grown ups. If the person gets bullied because of sexuality, religion, because the person doesn't fit in, or another reason to bully someone is just wrong.
Grown ups bully just as much as children (young people) do. In some work places bullying does take place.
And especially today with internet it's so easy to bully someone. The so-called "trolls" keep writing bad things to someone on social media. And it can hurt them deeply and sometimes to the point where the person commit suicide.
I believe that whatever sexuality or religion we might have it doesn't give some the right to bully someone. It neither give someone right to bully someone who is fat or skinny. Or if that person doesn't fit in. WE ARE WHO WE ARE.
I was bullied myself when I went to school. I didn't wear the same clothes as the rest of my class mates and I was the first one to get glasses in my class. And for some years I got bullied because of it. To a certain point I became a fragile person. I was lucky because I had a teacher I could talk to. And I talked to this teacher a lot. For me that was a big help. This particular teacher heard me out. And could see it from my point of view. It never came to the point where I thought it was best if I wasn't here anymore and in someway I think I can thank my teacher for that. The teacher is not the only reason. I'm also a big reason for it. Because I asked for help. For some years after I was finished school I found it diffult to fit in in both in a group and in life itself. And the more I tried to fit in the more I felt that I didn't fit in.
Slowly I got my confidence back and when I went to college I could feel that I was started to fit in.
Today for the most part I don't care what people think of me. If they think I'm ugly or someone think I don't look the way they think I should. I don't really care. I am who I am. Sometimes we get asked if we could travel back in time would we change something about our past. My answer is actually no. For me the bullying is part of the person I am today. If I changed that I don't if I would be the person I am today. I can go both ways and I will never know. I know I can't make everyone happy and I'm fine with that. I do sometimes do think I don't fit in. Then I just think happy thoughts and it's away as quickly as it came. :-)
Life isn't easy and growing up isn't easy. Today I try not to bully someone. I can never be sure since we don't say or react the same. My meaning of a word can have another meaning to the one I'm saying something to. As an celebrity I follow on twitter says: "Spread love and love will spread". That's the words I live by now.
If you're getting bullied my best advice is get help. May it be a teacher, co-worker, parent, spouse, friend or whoever you think will be able to help you. Or if there's a crisis linie you can call, then call it. The first step is always the hardest. When you've taken that first step it will get better. And take your time getting through this. You can't rush it.
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